Skip to main content

Momma Needs a Night Out!

Everyone needs a night out once in a while.  Whether it's a night on the town or just dinner and a movie, getting away can be a great stress reliever.  However, when a baby's involved, it can also be a stress maker.

The first time I left my child at home with a sitter, I was both excited and terrified.  I had been planning for this event since even before my daughter arrived.  I had a charity gala to attend six weeks after my daughter's due date.  Tickets had been purchased.  I had my formal dress.  I made sure my husband would be available.  Everything was set.  Then...my daughter arrived in this world and I wasn't sure I'd be able to leave her.

Leaving a child for the first time can be excruciating.  Not knowing how they're going to respond, if they'll eat, if they'll sleep, if it will mess up their schedule, etc. etc. etc.  These are all things that go through your mind (or at least mine).  When preparing for my night out, I knew that I had good babysitters.  They were close friends, but I still worried.  What if something happened?

Looking back on this time, I've learned that worrying just comes with the territory.  Somewhere either before, during, or after the birth of your child - as a mother - you will begin to worry.  The degree to which we all worry will be different, but it's there.  Don't let this worry keep you away from enjoying a night out...hopefully with your hubby or some other girlfriends.

A night out is a great way to remember that you're still human.  Too many times, we spend night after night, day after day, doing things for our new baby and insisting that he/she is too dependent on us - so we just can't get away.  However, those little ones can be quite resilient!  I was SHOCKED to find that my baby could survive three hours away from me (or maybe it was me who could survive without Baby!).  That special night away helped me to feel like an adult and appreciate my time with Baby even more.


So, to all you women who think you can't go out on the town, here's some homework...find some girlfriends, or get that special man cleaned up, plan a dinner, movie, or just drinks out on the town.  You'll find that it's easier to relax than you think. However, if you're still unsure, ease into it...invite those girlfriends over for dinner and a movie at your place!  Whatever you do, make sure you do it for you!  YOU DESERVE IT!
Labels:

Comments

  1. sigkapla79August 14, 2010 at 9:57 PM

    I went to a college friend's wedding 3 weeks after my son was born. And boy did I need it - having grandparents around really helped!

    ReplyDelete

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Leadership Mom: SWOT Analysis

In business, leaders often analyze our Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, and Threats through a SWOT analysis.  So, if we are going to look at our role as moms as being the greatest leadership opportunity to us, let's start with analyzing ourselves and our kids.  Here's the SWOT I developed for my family: Family SWOT Analysis As a doting mother, there are hundreds of strengths that I could put up here for my kids.  Their hugs, kisses, bedtime stories and prayers, the fact that they come to me when they're seeking healing from an injury (physical or emotional), the notes and drawings they make for me, their precious hearts when they try to help me or that they've learned how to use the Keurig to bring me coffee in the morning...I could go on and on. Now, here's the part where we get honest with ourselves.  Yes, we love our kids and we love our family (or, hopefully, most of the time), but we are not perfect.  Nor should we be perfect.  As we analyze oursel
3 comments
Read more

Cybersecurity 101

One of the things that continually amazes me as a parent of young(er) children is their ability to quickly understand technology and its uses.  Not only have my children learned the art of swiping to use different devices, but they've also learned how to access apps, take pictures, answer calls (both phone and Skype), and more.  My children could teach their grandparents a lesson or two on how to use technology. But, as a student of cybersecurity, I have seen a greater need to educate my children - as well as so many others - on the cybersecurity.  This goes beyond posting inappropriate pictures and unfriendly words on social media (although these lessons must also be taught).  This goes into the nature of understanding the benefits and risks of using technology and the privacy lost to it.  The major premise that must be understood in regards to cybersecurity is that information/data is money.  It's value is continually increasing.  We need to secure our information just as w
Post a Comment
Read more

Why can't they just be friends?

Why can't my kids just be friends?  I must ask myself this question hundreds of times during the week.  I thought that having kids relatively close together was going to be great.  They'd have a playmate and an automatic friend.  However, the truth is that - most of the time - they don't get along.  It's not that they're enemies...it's that they drive each other crazy.  They each want the other one to do what they want to do.  Then, when the other one does what they want, they get mad at them because they wanted to do it themselves. They don't want to share their toys.  Then, they play together only to then get mad and purposefully break the other sibling's toys. They want to get the other one in trouble so that they look like the "good" child and get more rewards.  Then they get upset that the other sibling got them in trouble when they *tattled* on them. At mealtimes, they want to sit where the other one is sitting.  They want the c
Post a Comment
Read more